When we hit our lowest points, we tend to start looking down on ourselves. We look at our mess and compare ourselves to others. We want to be free of the consequences our decisions have created. We want the pain to stop, but it's the pain that awakens us!
It's the desire for a lack of pain that makes us turn the ship around. It's not the end of our story, it's the beginning of a new chapter! Don't be defeated! Seeing what needs to change is a huge step! The secret is deciding things will not stay as they are and letting that fuel you to fail forward. Practice new behaviors, create new habits. It's uncomfortable and even painful in it's own way but it produces the beautiful supernova that you long to see reflecting back at you in the mirror! Whatever is causing you to burst open today, lean into it! Let it inspire you and transform you. Choose the sharp momentary pain of change over the long dull aching pain of staying in your comfort zone. You can't grow there. You're highest potential is outside those boundaries. Dare to step over that line! 🌠🌠🌠
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Today I took the vertical walk that was the backyard at this mountain mansion. I wanted to see the view from the top. I took it alone and as I began it didn't look that difficult, it's just a big hill right?😂 Because of the Rocky terrain I had to look down at each step and after awhile I looked up to see how far I had left and it looked like I had made no progress at all! I was already a little winded and tired and I had a choice to make. Turnback? Or keep going? These are the questions that reoccur in my life. I start something. I struggle. I doubt. I turn back. A few years ago I wanted to be a coach but I didn't want it to be something I gave up on. I didn't have faith or belief in myself. I had lost sight of my worth. The desire rolled around in my head and heart until one day I saw another coach on a free trip she had earned through her business. A business helping others! Right there in my kitchen, I decided. I'm going to be someone who does hard things. I'm going to be free. I'm going to stop turning back and keep going. I WILL be the person I want to be no matter what other people think. I WILL have a life if freedom and travel and adventure and I will build it serving others! Friends, sometimes I feel like the mountain looms over me. I don't feel like I am enough. I start to doubt, but I've made a commitment to myself that it's not about what I am in this moment, it's about who I am becoming! Today instead of looking up at the distance I had to go, I looked back where my attention should be , the step in front of me, and I took it. Monday we start a new challenge group. We are working on doing hard things, facing fears, and learning what the next step is to the life we want. We work out, we learn to eat well but more importantly we dig deep and find out what's holding us back. We figure it out at our own pace, in our own time, but we aren't turning back. My hand is reaching out for you but I will be here in a month and next year and 10 years from now because I am not turning back. The question is are you ready to leave the fear and doubt behind and create the life you want? From the moment you decide that, its not only possible, it's INEVITABLE! I made it up here today, one step at a time, and the view was breathtaking! But the view inward was breathtaking too! I LOVE being a woman that lives well! I love being a woman that does what she sets out to do! Take the step, we start tomorrow! Success leaves clues and this is one that I have noticed. It all starts with an emotion, right? We feel discontent, or envy, or insecure, or unhappy. We start comparing ourselves to others, noticing what they HAVE and we decide that if we had THAT thing, a spouse, a fancy car, owning our own home, a better body, THEN we could be happy or fulfilled. We set our sights on that thing and then we DO the actions we think we will get it for us.
Two things come from this place: 1. We get it and find ourselves still fully discontent and unhappy and set our eyes on the next thing. We enter into a cycle of chasing an ever moving target, blaming circumstances and other people for our unhappiness and creating an endless path of destruction. 2. We DON'T achieve or acquire the thing and we choose to believe that we don't have what it takes, other people are just lucky, or we have no real control over our lives. From this place we can feel jaded, disillusioned, and generally sour about life. We want no encouragement. We want people around us to simply admit that life wasn't fair for us and let us sulk. It's because we have it backwards! When we think if we HAVE the thing, that we will want to DO the actions and we will BE the person we want to be. It's completely the opposite. BE. DO. HAVE. Each day we have choices. The mundane everyday choices from what we eat for breakfast to how we spend our leisure time, to how we interact with our loved ones and co-workers. In terms of our health, the focus cannot be on HAVING a fit body. If that is our only focus than after a week of eating healthy and exercise we are going to look in the mirror, see how little progress we have made and throw in the towel and that is exactly what most people do. Instead, if we want true transformation, we have to work at BEing that version of ourselves. We have to have the commitment that we are going to BE a person that takes care of their body and that commitment of integrity and purpose is what helps us push through in the discouraging moments to DO the work because its not about HAVING something, its about who we are and who we want to BE. The people that grasp this and get their focus on being instead of having are the ones that find excellence, success, and joy in their lives because their lives are being built on integrity and they are controlling the one thing they have control over-themselves! They become disciplined because they have true vision. We cannot control circumstances, life throws punches. We cannot control other people, and when we try the results are NOT good! But we can do the hard work of knowing who we are, who we want to be, and showing up to our lives with vision to forge a future we are proud to live! THAT is the point of starting a program and joining a challenge group! It's not to walk through it perfectly, it's a training ground. It's where we go public with who we want to be, it's where we learn to use the tools, it's where we try and fail, learn about ourselves, and try again. It's where we are surrounded by other people pursuing growth and integrity who remind of us our vision when we doubt. We are in the arena together and we would LOVE to have YOU join us! Our next challenge group starts on October 2nd! Message me to get more details! Mirrors are a tool for growth. They reflect what is, they can show us how we have changed, and they can encourage us to grow but they do not reflect our worth.
Don't avoid them. Utilize them! In case you haven't been told today: You are beautiful! You are worthy! You are a soul on a mission! Find a mirror and tell the amazing person staring back at you! 💗 #mirrorshot#reflections #worthy When I was learning how to ski, my instructor told me to keep my eyes on where I wanted to go. He told me that my feet would follow my gaze so if I got afraid and started looking toward the object of my fear I would actually head that direction.
Ive found this to be some of the most helpful advice I've ever received because it's true off the slopes too! When we focus on our fear and mull it around in our minds we cannot direct our steps to good things. At best we became paralyzed with fear and at worst we head in the direction of the fear. Being an observer of our thoughts means we can choose to direct the traffic of our minds. Just because we think something doesn't make it true. Part of being present in the moment is directing our thoughts and casting aside what isn't true and what doesn't serve us. It means shutting down the negative internal dialogue and pouring truth in so that we train ourselves to walk in truth. This is half the battle! Our emotions follow our thoughts, and our actions are influenced by our emotions. The goals we want to reach, the life we want to have, it all starts with how we observe and direct our thoughts! It takes practice but it's the most important form of exercise that we can do for ourselves. It makes every other goal easier to reach! As we get active in our thoughts life it shapes our outside reality! 💗 #thoughtsoftheday #bepresent #observer It's only 9:30 am and already I am having to speak truth to myself. The last two days have been full of sad news and frustrating circumstances and I'm struggling. I'm struggling to feel my worth and to stay present. My thoughts start filling up with what I should have done or said differently. I look at the perfect decision in hindsight and judge myself for not making it. I'm looking into the pastand filling myself with guilt, regret, and sadness. I am projecting into the future and filling myself with unease, tension, anxiety, and stress.
So this morning, I put the brakes on it! I spent some time reading personal development. I gathered all the information I needed to make the best decisions NOW and I took action. I put it behind me and I am moving forward. I am choosing to live in THIS moment and instead of all those negative emotions, I choose gratitude! I am grateful for my life, for my family, for all the good things that I've received and for all the good things that are coming my way! There will be trials. Don't get hung up on them. Don't let them take control of your emotional state. Take a deep breath with me and live in gratitude for this moment even if its through tears. We don't know how many we are going to get and each one is a miracle! This is going to be a Reel Family Staple! Delicious and Simple! There are so many nights where I realize its almost time to make dinner and I simply don't feel like it! Are you with me? I actually found making this recipe pleasant. You chop quite a few veggies but they only need to marinate for 30 minutes and then once you throw them in the broiler, the entire dinner is ready in 8 minutes! If you are a prepper, you could have it all done and ready to go on an off night! I'd love to hear what you think!
Prep Time 50 minutes Cook Time 8 minutes Total Time 58 minutes Servings 4 servingsIngredients
Calories: 273 Total Fat: 12 g Saturated Fat: 3 g Cholesterol: 60 mg Sodium: 454 mg Carbohydrates: 25 g Fiber: 7 g Sugars: 15 g Protein: 20 g A few years ago some painful experiences occurred and I made the decisions to step off the moving train that was my life. I was a young mom, I was tired, I was burnt out on trying to deal with others judgments. We had just moved and for once it was quiet and I was free from expectations of others.
The longer I stayed there, the less interested I was in relationships. One day I realized I had no friends and I didn't even care. I had let negativity be my norm. I had been holding on to past wrongs and not forgiving. I had been damaging myself through negative thoughts. Even though I didn't care, I knew I needed to change. I knew it wasn't right. I wasn't happy. I wasn't fulfilled. It took awhile to turn that ship around but I started making small positive changes! I started reading personal development and I started caring for my body. It wasn't easy to rewire my thoughts and behaviors but it changed my life. We are meant for daring and adventure and fulfillment! We are meant for relationships and connection. I've had to learn to recognize healthy thoughts and behaviors from myself and others. I've had to insist that those on my inner circle are people that uplift and encourage me as I seek to uplift and encourage. Life is still hard but now it's a joy! I'm working hard at the right things with the right people beside me. Be daring! Be decisive! Forge your path and make conscious decisions about who you want on that path with you! Growing is a daring feat but it's worth every second of the effort! ❤️#weareconquerors I used to tell myself that I was too busy. Too busy to work out everyday, too busy to read personal development everyday, too busy to make time for myself. I was drowning in the amount of work and responsibilities I had until I realized that I had control of my schedule!
Yes, things like laundry and dishes and grocery shopping and cleaning have to be done but do they have to be done NOW? Won't they have to be done again later? Can't I take 30 minutes for myself today and do lunch and dinner dishes tonight? Can't I ask my husband to take on a responsibility that will free me up to take a breather? I needed to make my health, inside and out, a priority. Once I put myself into the schedule and released myself from mom guilt and shame, my life improved exponentially! We have to remember we aren't just mothers and wives and household managers. We are women, we are individuals, we are souls that need care! Feeling overwhelmed, feeling discouraged, feeling unhappy or frustrated or numb, those are all signs that our priorities are not in the right order. It's time to reevaluate and put ourselves on the list! We can't serve from an empty vessel! Doing what's best for our families mean taking ourselves into account to! We are members too, you know! 😉 There are infinite choices in life and sometimes we have to say to good things to experience what's best for us! Choose wisely! |
Author"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same. Archives
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