There Are No Limits!
Phillip and I booked a family vacation last night. That might not seem like a big deal to some but we have spent a lot of years paying of debt and making sacrifices. We watched on as other people did the things we longed to do and kept plugging along with what we knew we needed to do even when it was a struggle.
We were consistent in doing the work and pushing through the plateaus as well as picking ourselves up when life circumstances knocked us down and stole our progress at times.
It been a dream of ours to do fun things with our children and to make fun memories and we have finally hit a point in our life where we can make some of those things possible.
One of the things I was terrified to do was start with Beachbody. I was afraid that Shakeology was going to be a drain on our finances, but what happened was that it replaced convenience food and junk we shouldn't have been eating anyway. It added instead of taking away. I was afraid to start a business and possibly fail miserably in front of others but instead I committed to the process and let it transform me from a fearful person to a courageous one on fire with purpose!
As I grew in my belief and passion about my experience and wanting to help others, I was worried about what other people would think of me. Each step of this freedom has required me to push past my fears and perceived limitations.
I've grown in ways that I never would have expected. I'm healthier inside and out, financially and physically. I'm pursuing my passion of being a healer and an encouragement to the world and earning an income!
Transforming and seeing your best self emerge is an amazing feeling! It's worth the work it takes to build it! I see a variety of factors hold people back.
They will pay for a gym membership they don't use but fear paying for a challenge pack they can return. They fear failing yet another fitness program. They worry what other people will say about their latest attempt.
I get it. I do. I was living paralyzed by fear for years and it finally came down to the fact that I was tired of feeling miserable that made me take the leap. I am so glad I did! ❤️
As a family our health and finances are in a place I couldn't have even imagined were possible a few years ago!
Whether it's health you need to gain, weight you need to lose, or financial stability you want to gain, I've got answers! This is the last day to join our July challenge group! We officially start our round Monday, jump in!
I also have a new Coach training starting on Monday if you are ready to take the leap and join Angels of Valor! The work is simple and rewarding and it will grow you into a person that courageously lives outside your comfort zone! That has been my favorite transformation of all! ❤️
Message me today to ditch the fear and get started!
The Magic of Beginnings
In 2005, my roommate( and best friend) Elizabeth and I decided we were going to do something we had always wanted to do: Go to New York City! It had been a rough season of disappointments and endings and we decided we were going to stop sitting around and LIVE!
In a matter of hours we had tickets, a hotel, and were packed. It ended up being a life altering trip! Not only did we have the time of our lives and fall in love with the city, I ran into an old employer on Times Square and got offered my dream job and my friend got connected with people in NYC that eventually led to getting her dream job as well!
When we got home and stepped in our little rental house, we looked at each other.
She said, " It doesn't feel like our home anymore, does it?"
I replied, " Not at all."
In the weeks that followed, I bought a house, we found three more incredible roommates, I started my new job, Elizabeth started hers at a Florida branch.
There is magic in things ending and magic in new beginnings! I often wonder what would have happened if we hadn't decided to stop moping and start living. That trip dramatically changed our lives!
Sometimes you just have to make a choice to do something you've never done and watch the magic happen!
Our new challenge group started this morning. I woke up with an uneasy feeling that there was someone else that needed to join us. Our focus this month is creating a vision and getting in tune with your true values. Health and vision are the pillars we all need in place to create an exciting life! If you need a little magic in your life, it's not too late to late to join us! Message me! I still have one tote left with your name on it! <3
Dream By Day
When Phillip married me, I had two mortgages and $50,000 worth of debt in the form of an equity loan that had partially helped my mom get through school and partially funded the second house which was mostly being paid off by my roommates until I got married. All of a sudden all these decisions that people had told me were wise felt like a big mess.
We decided to take Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University and it changed the course of our lives forever! He gave us a dream. A dream of being out of debt and the baby steps we needed to get there. Once you have done it, it seems like common sense but at the time I had no idea how to climb out of that hole.
Within 2 years, we paid off the entire $50,000 and sold one of the houses. Within 5 years we were completely debt free. What I learned most from this experience is that dreams are what drive us!
Once I knew what I wanted was to be out of debt, I was willing to do anything to get there. The sacrifices didn't even sting because what I wanted was so much more rewarding than whatever momentary temptations called out to me.
I know it's easy to feel powerless when all around us people are living lives that seem unattainable to us, but this is what I have discovered: We aren't dreaming big enough!
I want you to think about the phone in your hand, or some of the beautiful clothes hanging in your closet, or a trip you took that you barely scraped the money together to pull off. When something is important enough, we figure it out! We sell some things, or take a side job, or develop a new skill. When we get in that zone, we are unstoppable!
Success and achievement are not out of reach, we just need to dream bigger than we are right now! Some of the things that have served me most were getting my health and finances in order. Working towards those things was empowering, reaching those goals gave me confidence to pursue even bigger goals and a solid foundation to build on.
Just as Dave Ramsey took me through the baby steps of getting out of debt, every dream in my life has had steps, has required sacrifice, vision, and consistency! If you want to have an exciting life it starts with those unexciting things, but its WORTH IT!
Instead of sitting on the sidelines feeling defeated, get back in the ring! Get excited about things you want to accomplish and figure out what the steps you need to take to get there. That may mean starting with your health or finances and branching out from there but its still a step in the right direction!
Once you get a glimpse of all the incredible things within your grasp you will never want to settle for less! Let's be those that dream by day! <3
Be THeir Inspiration...
It's true! Any chance, any risk I've ever wanted to take, I've had a line of people waiting to tell me how foolish it was to try. I've been told to settle, to pursue safer more stable paths, but friends, we have one life!
No one else has to carry the consequences of the advice you take but you! I've tried a great many things, I've succeeded and I've fallen in my face but I can tell you this, the rewards are great and the consequences bearable when they are your choices and your dreams!
It's easy to get bogged down by all the negativity but in the end YOU are the only person who can know what you will regret. Life is short but it can be so exciting! Don't choose the comfort zone. Dream big and follow where they lead! The only people that get offended are those that are scared to follow theirs, be their inspiration instead of their pupil! #lifeisshort#gobigorgohome
I had a horrible day yesterday. I drove 40 minutes to an appointment scheduled THE DAY BEFORE only to be told that no doctor was in and that my appointment was for the following day. It was clerical error made by the scheduler but she was rude to me and refused to admit her mistake. Upon returning home I got to spend the rest of the day on the phone fighting with the hospital about our outlandish $6000 bill for an hour in the ER and an ibuprofen.
On days like that, I still find myself struggling with old patterns. I wanted to run out and get a redbull and carbs and sulk about my luck. I won't lie, I thought about it for a minute! But you know what? That cycle isn't a step in the right direction. It doesn't help my body to pour in junk, it doesn't help me reach my goals, it doesn't solve my problems. That was me having a temper tantrum and wanting a pacifier and that is NOT who I want to be. If I want to enjoy some contraband, that's ok, but not as a reaction to a stressful day. Telling myself I "need" something or "deserve" something because I am having a bad day isn't the truth. And believing that lie means every time something bad happens, I am making excuses about why OTHER people are responsible for my lack of success.
Think about it. If another person treating me badly is an excuse for not sticking to my goals, ultimately I am allowing these people to control my future! HELL NO.
So, I told the internal entitled brat to shut it and I dealt with my problems, I forgave the people being rude to me, I chose to be the person I wanted to be and at the end of the day, I felt good about every decision I made! I was closer to the goals I set for myself and I handled my problems in a healthy way.
The lie of I "need" and I "deserve" are powerful and they will keep us from what we truly want if we allow them to creep into our daily life. Life is HARD. Things go wrong all the time every day for all of us. If we allow ourselves to give up because everyone would understand why we did, we will simply give up every time we hit hardship. True strength is tackling the problems head on and THAT is when we will start to see true transformation inside and out.
Yesterday, it came down to accountability for me. I had my challenge group waiting to hear what I did today that I have committed to being honest with and they were the tipping point for me! It's important to have people in your corner that tell you the truth and rejoice with you as you move forward. If you need that, we have room for you! <3 Message me to join our July group! <3
There is nothing wrong with either of these pictures. I'm at a healthy weight for my height, but I have really wanted to build muscle and I've been doing the hard work of pushing myself in my work outs, eating MORE food, and cutting back on sugar. There is no weight differences between these pictures, it's just a shift in fat to muscle and these pictures are two weeks apart.
So often people don't get started because it seems like a long road but:
1. You can accomplish SO much in only a couple of weeks when you're consistent!
2. The time is going to pass anyway! Whether your goal is two weeks away or a year away, the fastest way to get there is to get started!
You can do this! 30 minutes a day and flexible long term nutrition plan is all it takes! It's not complicated but there are no quick fixes. Come do the work with me! It sooo worth it! ❤️
I invite You
Any time you put yourself out there on social media, you are going to get some backlash. There are always going to be people that want to criticize you and cut you down.
I've become aware of some thoughts and comments about me that I want confront head on. I have been completely honest about my history with calorie counting and borderline anorexia. I've shared with you the unhealthy thought patterns and inner dialogue. I've shared with you how I've abused my body and disrespected myself.
I've shared it all because I've come out of that! I've shared because I know there are other women struggling just as I did that need to be freed from that lifestyle.
I've been told that people are making comments that I'm too thin, that I'm not eating enough, that I'm not healthy, so I'm going to even more blunt than I have been.
That number I spent my life trying to see on the scale was 116 and that is what I have weighed most of my adult life. A healthy range for my body is 118-159 at 5'7" by medical standards. When I say I was borderline anorexic, I mean that I controlled my eating in a way that I was starving myself literally and nutritionally on purpose to be thinner than I should be but I was able to draw a line and not cross it. It was like an alcoholic not opening up a beer before noon because THAT is the thin line they believe sets them apart from true alcoholism. Following?
The girl on the the left was 116, working out for hours at the gym. She had very little muscle definition because she wasn't eating enough and her body was consuming any muscle she did build to survive. She calorie counted and stayed under 1200 calories per day, often eating only 900. She weighed herself everyday and what the scale said dictated her mood and her food intake.
The girl on the right? She weighs 122 pounds. Her thoughts are on building muscle. She works out 30 minutes per day. She eats 1500 or more calories per day. Her food choices are focused on the most nutritional value she can give her body. The scale is only a tool, it doesn't dictate her life or her mood.
I know it's easier for some to believe I'm doing something wrong instead of facing that what's accepted and comfortable and " normal" in our culture is unhealthy but I love you too much not to tell you the truth!
My challenge groups are not places where women are wasting away killing themselves to be thin, we are working on our health inside and out! We focus first on healthy thoughts and a true understanding of our worth and beauty. We commit to our health and our own goals.
I have challengers who are more fit than me, who do harder programs and are stricter with their nutrition. I have challengers that are happy to be in the higher weight bracket and enjoy a few more donuts and that's ok too! I'm not trying to pump out super models, I'm interested in helping women create something amazing with their lives and health is the platform that we build on!
Our challenge groups are a place for women to come get educated on nutrition, to rest in acceptance, to get a clear perspective of their worth and to practice self care.
To the concerned, I invite you to check it out! I invite you to join us and see what we are all about and enjoy eating more food than you ever have without shame! I invite you to find joy in exercise and strength and growth and the sheer delight that comes from seeing your body transform in a way you never expected! We have a new group starting soon and it would be my privilege to prove it to you! ❤️ Message me for more information!
Poised And Ready
When I was 7, my family was evicted from our home. We packed all our belongings and headed to Florida on "vacation" but I was old enough to understand what was happening.
A few nights before we left, I was invited to spend the night with my best friend but I was so riddled with fear that halfway through the night her sweet father had to walk me home. I don't know exactly what I was afraid of, getting left behind perhaps, but the fear was real and intense and it stayed that way for years. I didn't spend the night anywhere again until I was 10 years old.
During those years, I became afraid of a lot. I was terrified my parents were going to die. I was suspicious of strangers and often made plans in my head about how I would escape perilous situations with my siblings. Fear was running rampant in my thoughts and because it was what I focused on, it expanded.
When I was ten, my adult cousin Shannan, who I still adore, invited me to fly out to California for a visit. I was over the moon! When we were boarding the plane, they had us return to the gate and announced they were having technical problems. Half an hour later when they were boarding again, I did not get on the plane. The habits I had built with fearful thoughts had left me immobilized in that moment.
I watched that plane leave without me and I was so sad on the way home that I vowed I wouldn't let fear do that to me anymore. No more missed adventures because I was afraid, I have never missed another one.
Fear really isn't the trouble. Fear serves us in moments of TRUE danger. It alerts us to react in ways that can save our lives or the lives of others. The problem surfaces when we respond to non-emergency situations like they are dire!
Have you ever had to give a speech and you were trembling so much you could barely hold your note cards? That fear isn't serving you! The only way to put fear in its place there is to GIVE THE SPEECH. Pushing yourself outside the realm of fears control, doing it anyway and seeing that no one died. Every time you practice the thing that makes you nervous your fearful response lessens until you aren't afraid at all.
Fear has become a challenge for me. If I am afraid to do something, I go for it. I have fallen in love with proving to myself that I am stronger than my fears.
So often, the reasons people give me for NOT changing things in their life that they are unhappy with are fear related. They are afraid to start a challenge group because they are afraid they will fail. They are afraid to fall their passion and become a coach because they are afraid of what people will think. They are afraid to come face to face with themselves and see the truth about themselves.
The truth is that YOU have so much untapped potential! They truth is that you are at AMAZING at things you haven't even discovered yet! The truth is that life is about self discovery and if you start something and you don't love it or don't want to continue, that doesn't make you a failure! You have just scratched something off the list. The truth is that living a life filled with fear and shame is a waste. Fear will always be there. It's not going away but can put it in its place and only allow it to serve us and not to control us. We get to choose whether or not we are going to engage with it.
I can promise from experience that it is better to try and fall flat on your face than to live in the discomfort and unhappiness of a life you aren't truly living.
Make a promise to yourself not to miss out on any more adventures because you are afraid. We live in this beautiful world in a free country with everything at our finger tips, let's be dreamers and doers! Make a list and let it grow!
"I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship." Louisa May Alcott
When the challenge is something you are preparing for and excited to overcome, there is no room for fear. The storm is simply the moment you see how far you've come.
Each Sunday our group weighs in, measures, and takes pictures of our progress. We see where we have succeeded and where we need to grow. We redirect, we make adjustments and we learn.
We have failures, we do, but it's not a defeat! We are simply learning how to sail our ships and we step out of the comfort zone and push past our fears, we expand our limits! We become capable of more than we thought was possible and, in the end, that is more precious a gift than the pounds lost!
"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.