It's not about the number on the scale, it's about self care. It's about self discovery and healing and growth. These things take time. Don't rush it. Experience it. Learn about yourself. Lay a foundation you can build a healthy fulfilling life upon. Fall in love with caring for yourself mind, body, and spirit and the progress will come!
This is the first thing we need to acknowledge anytime we start anything new! The first draft of a book is not the one that gets published. Championships aren't truly won on game day, they are won during practice where failure has happened again and again.
When it comes to our health journey, the major problem is that most of us feel shame. We feel shame about how we look, what we eat, and any perceived failure heightens that feeling. Our society has told us that our worth is tied to our appearance and that, my friends, is a complete lie!
Our bodies are the most important thing we have, they allow us to connect with people, to create in the physical realm anything we can dream, they are incredible no matter what shape they are in! It should be a joy and a privilege to care for them! (as we would an expensive car, right?! Our bodies are worth so much more! )
Our health journey is one of self discovery and it's hard at times to face our issues but it is so rewarding! Our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health are tied to each other. When we start working on our bodies, we hit other issues. We find out that we are eating because we are self soothing, or because we're lonely, or unhappy. We have to face each discovery and tend to the wound before we can move forward, but the result is a LIFE ( not just a body) that we can delight in! Life is too short not to live an amazing life! So stop being discouraged that first draft sucked! Of course it did!
Instead of looking at yourself as a failure, delve into self discovery! Why did you binge eat? Why did you stop working out? Why are you feeling shame? Dig, discover, grow! If you need help sorting it out, message me! I'll ask you questions until we get to the root of it!
The amazing thing about pursuing your health is that all roads lead to fulfilling your potential as a human being. We have so much untapped potential, each of us is capable of so much more than we think, and when we start believing that we are worth the time and effort, amazing things happen! More than a healthy body, I want you to discover THAT about yourself because it will change your life!
So write the first draft and keep writing until your masterpiece comes to life! Stop worrying about what society thinks of you and focus on what is true!
I shared this with my challenge group today but it's been a reoccurring topic among my conversations lately I wanted to share with you!
I didn't start this health journey to repair my relationship with myself. I really didn't. I was annoyed by a few pounds of baby weight that I couldn't ditch to save my life. I hated the way my clothes fit and I attributed all my self loathing to those few pounds. If I could JUST lose the weight, I'd be happy. I didn't start out with the right mindset but truly caring for myself changed everything!
Well, I was able to shed the pounds with the 21 Day Fix but the weight I really lost was the weight of living for other people's approval. I had spent my entire life trying to be PERFECT all the time. It was exhausting and impossible. Practicing self care literally taught me how to love and appreciate myself just how I was. God used it to free me from a prison I didn't even know I was in and that is why I am so passionate about what we do here!
Your weight is not the problem, your food addiction is not your problem. The problem is that you don't fully see and feel your worth. You were handcrafted by God and even within that, WHO you are is infinitely more important that what you look like!
Yes, I want you to have a healthy body! It is amazing to feel good in your own skin! But it's also freedom to pursue all the incredible things that you were created to do which makes life EXCITING! Food is a blessing. God could have made eating an obligation and instead He made it a joy! When it becomes and idol and a distraction and even a hinderance to your life, it's time to look deeper. It's time to repair the relationship you have with yourself.
Just as with any relationship, it takes time to turn things around. Learning what you truly need, not a false fix, is a process. You are going to make mistakes and learn and grow, but each moment you choose to continue, you heal. You have decided that you are worth fighting for and slowing little by little you see JUST how worthy you really are! I want this for you because it will change your life! It will change how you feel about yourself, it will change how you date or how you respond to your spouse. It will change how you raise your children and what they expect of their role in life. It will change how you let people treat you, and help you respond to others from a position of strength.
Yes, I want you to reach every goal you have set for yourself but more than that, I want you to LOVE who you become in the process and I want to see you bloom through it! If we only knew our full potential, we would never settle for a sulky afternoon on the couch with junk food! We would be too busy living exciting fulfilling lives! I know this might sound a little dramatic for a fitness post but this is what the program has done for me!
If you achieve your fitness goal you will have gotten your money's worth but I hope you experience so much more than that!
We are gearing up for another round in April, if you are ready to start working on this relationship, we would love to have you join us! ❤️
One of my self limiting beliefs was that other women don't like me. And you know what? Some don't and that's ok.
I'm a little intense. I like to talk about deep things. I dislike chit chat and mingling. I'm much more at home in a private gathering than a party. I'd rather be reading a book or working out than getting my hair and nails done. I choose jeans and bare feet over dresses and high heels. I choose travel and experiences over things.
You know why I felt so insecure all those years? I spent my time being silent, feeling like I was different( and unacceptable) from everyone else. It was a little nerve racking when I decided I was just going to be me. I was prepared to lose friends and I did lose a few, but the most amazing thing happened!
Suddenly, I started finding my people! They were all around me. I just had to live loudly and be me and suddenly they could see me.
I am surrounded by women now that, not only love me, but are like me! We read the same books, work out, grow together, avoid loud parties, rock jeans and bare feet and love every minute of it!
If you've been believing the lie that you don't belong, it's time to find your people! Shine brightly, be who you are, enjoy your life and your tribe will find you! You are beautiful and worthy and unique, revel in it!
We were catching up on 'This Is Us' last night ( no spoilers, I promise! Phillip would kill me!) but one of the things that struck me about this particular episode was how all the characters were really depicted at my current age. The struggles of being late thirties. No matter what decisions we have made, it feels like so many doors have closed. The decisions we have made have formed a certain kind of life and we can start feeling trapped by our circumstances.
Marriage is hard, much harder than it seemed when we were free and twitterpated. We have made job choices around providing instead of pursuing our passions ( at times because we had to), our children have grown to a point that we aren't as needed anymore. We can start feeling irrelevant.
I had certainly started feeling that way. Before marriage and kids, I was FULL of life and ambition. I took risks, I was in love with my life, and meeting and marrying Phillip was part of that. We found each other in the middle of all that excitement and potential and I have no doubt that he is the one for me. We are of one mind, but even still, we had to start making decisions for our family. We decided together that I would stay home to be with our children, a decision I have no regrets about and yet it was gut wrenching leaving a job that I loved and a life I was proud of to start something new and unknown. I felt insecure about my abilities as a wife and a mother without the fulfillment of my career, I had too much of my self worth in my performance and that was revealed when I took away something that made me feel accomplished.
Our budget was tight and things had to be trimmed out, things we enjoyed, things that had brought us together in the first place. We had less time, less resources, and we started losing touch with all that excitement and potential. This is the beginning of a midlife crisis! This is the lie that our best days are behind us! That is not the problem. The problem is that we stopped dreaming.
I thank God for my husbands wisdom because he saw the answer first. He saw my need to have something of my own and my interest in serving others. He saw me telling people about the workout program that I was doing and saw how excited I was to help people get started and he told me I needed to coach. He made me do something for myself and that saved us. It was just one small decision. It didn't seem like a big deal but once I started feeling excited about my life again, lots of things started happening. We started dreaming. We started taking risks again. We got back to the root of who we are as individuals and as a couple.
A few months later, he decided he wanted to move to Colorado...in three weeks! He flew out for a week, found a place, and we MOVED. That is something we would have done long ago and we had the freedom to do it because we had both taken jobs that allowed us to work from home. There was nothing holding us back and it felt GOOD!
It doesn't matter if you are 20 or 100. If you are breathing, keep dreaming! Your age or circumstances aren't holding you back, they are simply different seasons of life, different hurdles to jump. In some ways you are MORE qualified to be successful in your later years because you have a mature frame of mind that you didn't have in your 20's, use it! Don't stand in front of the mirror mourning the loss of your youth, you are wasting time. In 20 years, you will be mourning the loss of THIS age! Instead, make the most of your life! Dream and then do the things that make you so excited you can't sleep!
Instead of letting your past haunt you, let your future potential haunt you! You are destined for greatness, that is why it's discouraging when you know you aren't reaching your full potential. It's not youth that makes us feel alive, it's pursuing the best version of ourselves, so get to it!
March 26th I am having a no obligation sneak peak into coaching. I'll be sharing my story and answering questions live and I would LOVE to spend some time with you and help you find out if this is a path for you! If you would love to build a life serving and encouraging people and having freedom to work from home ( or on the go) come join us! No pressure, just a fun chat to get you the answers you need as you dream! Message me or comment below and I will add you to the list! <3
"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.