One day. One day I'll get my finances in order.One day I'll be in better shape. One day I'll have an organized house.One day I'll fix my relationship with my spouse, parent or child. One day doesn't happen without vision, intention, and strategy!
The steps to those goals don't have to be large, they can be little steps in the right direction but we do have to set a goal and align our actions with that goal. What do you want " one day" to look like for you? Are you taking action to grow in those areas today? #oneday #today #womenofaction
What Is DOne In Love Is DOne Well
I was chatting with my sister this morning about her physical transformation and we were comparing strengths and trouble zones.
As we were remarking on how different our struggles are even when having the same parents she said, " As I've been studying, I've learned that the areas we store fat are determined in utero. We can't change WHERE our bodies store fat. The only thing we can do is build muscle which decreases the fat percentage and reduces the excess in those trouble areas."
Our culture is obsessed with losing weight but weightloss alone isn't the answer. Depriving or punishing ourselves can only last so long, it's not a foundation we can build on and it certainly is never done out of love.
When we fall in love with treating ourselves well and becoming stronger, we tap into that desire to work hard and revel in the progress we achieve! Because what is done in love is done well! 💗
We have to transform from the inside out. We have to strengthen our minds first and strength our bodies second and neither of those things can be done well, if at all, outside of love.
Gut check! What is your " why"? What is your current motivation to work out and watch your food intake? Is it a joy or do you dread it? Trace that emotionally backwards to the thoughts behind your why. What needs to change to make it an act of love?
Something I shared with our group today:
I saw this quote today and it hit home for me. SO often when we get started with our health journey it's from a place of wanting to turn our bodies from prisons to palaces without realizing that the prison is internal. Our bodies are only a reflection of how we treat them in conjunction with what they need from us.
Meaning that you probably know another woman that eats TERRIBLY and is a size 2 with perfect skin and you want to smack her because if you breathe around chocolate you gain 5 pounds! Some people's bodies handle poor treatment better than others but it is NOT a reflection of HEALTH. Nor is a 20 pound weight gain necessarily a reflection of poor nutrition. I have friends with auto immune diseases and food sensitivities that gain weight seemingly overnight without binging on junk.
Our bodies aren't the prisons, our minds are. We have to stop focusing on what we "should" look like, or how unfair it is that other people don't struggle the way we do, and instead start paying attention to what will set us free, from the thoughts we dwell on to the foods that we eat.
We are not here to diet. We aren't even here to lose weight. We are here to get in tune with our bodies and heal! Some ladies are palace-ready the moment they start! They have dealt with the emotional junk in their lives and they are starting self care from a place of self awareness and truth. That was NOT my story!
I started trying to turn my body from a prison to a palace and in the process of self care realized it was my mind that was holding me captive. All of this has taken me longer than other women but IT DOESN'T MATTER! It doesn't matter how fast or slow you are healing, it only matters that you ARE healing!
Instead of getting irritated that you are still struggling with food addictions, or working out, or even speaking truth to yourself, just acknowledge that there is a problem! That was the first step for me. I had to admit that my body wasn't the issue, the way I thought about and treated my body was the issue. Start there. Work on rejecting lies. Work at replacing them with truth. If you want something terrible for yourself to the point you are feeling angry and deprived, eat it! But then pay attention to how you feel physically and emotionally afterward! Begin to recognize what your body is communicating to you. Notice when you feel bloated, or nauseous, or jittery, or even emotional.
You will start to see how you are building your own prison being at war with your own body. As you become aware of how you feel after the junk, you WILL stop wanting a lot of it. I promise you that! Stop feeling like a failure if you aren't sailing through this process. You have to be on the same team as your body! It fights for you, it begs for nutrients so it can heal you, so it can grow and feed babies, so it can fight diseases and illness. BE. IT'S. ALLY. Work on having a mind that is palace ready, so no prison can hold you! You ARE stronger than your genetics, you ARE stronger than any disease you might have, you ARE meant to have unity within your mind, body, and soul. We are all working towards THAT goal in different ways.
Keep working on what that means for you without getting discouraged by the scale. I had a lot of mental work to do, others in the group had the hard task of figuring out what foods, even healthy 21 Day Fix approved foods, were tearing down their bodies. Still others are walking through emotional trauma and having to forgive and make the conscious effort to move forward from pain. Our prisons are different but we were all made for a palace! Give yourself the freedom to figure out what that means for you!
Did anything come to mind while you were reading this? Share! <3
Did you know that if a plane is only 1 degree off of it's trajectory that as it flies from the west coast to the east coast of the US it will end up over 300 miles off course? The pilot has to be in a constant state of reevaluating and making tiny adjustments to stay on course. It's very similar in our health journey!
The greatest skill I've learned along this journey is that perseverance and endurance are so much more important than perfection! We can't be perfect, the winds of life push us around, our emotions get the best of us and we have to reevaluate in tiny ways day to day. ( Minute to minute somedays!)
Consistently building better habits is more effective than trying to overhaul your life in a week!
If you aren't exercising at all right now, starting walking three times a week for 15 minutes and let it grow as it becomes part of your schedule. When your all purpose white flour runs out, swap it out for a healthier flour. Slowly over time, stop buying items that don't align with your goals and replacing them with items that do! Plan veggies at every meal meal! Drink more water! One day you'll look at your pantry and your life and see you've transformed one small decision at a time.
Don't tackle the biggest things first. If you have a severe coffee addiction, that's not the place to start! Maybe start trimming back on the creamer or order a smaller size but let the small choices snowball in big changes until your foundation is solid enough to tackle your emotional and physiological addictions.
Don't let perfectionism hold you back from getting started! The smallest decision can change your entire trajectory! It doesn't matter how long it takes you to get there, it only matters that you end up where you want to be! 💗
Yesterday we started our preseason week where we take the simple steps to plan our month out and we start our plan on Monday! It's not too late to join us! Message me to for more info! 💗
Do More Than Belong
Last night there was a shooting at our local Walmart, the one I get my oil changed at, the one I take my kids to. We are safe. We weren't there but we could hear the sirens from our house.
While we were sitting there waiting for news, waiting to hear from our friends, waiting for answers, I realized that I spend way too much time waiting. I so often put off living out of fear. Fear of what could happen, fear of what other people might think, fear of rejection and failure.
In this moment, instead of being fearful of life, it made me fearful of a life unlived. It lit a fire in me to do more with mine. I'm not guaranteed any number of days, so each one is precious. Each one should be lived with vision, intention, and purpose.
Relationships, human connection, serving each other, growing...love. In the end, I want to have loved to the very best of my ability.
As I grieve with my community today, I'm resolving to do more, to be present, and to step outside my comfort zone, to push past fear and to love well.
Live To The Point Of Tears
This quote struck me today. A couple of years ago, I was living to be numb. I kept busy looking perfect on the outside. My house was spotless, my children were immaculate, I kept quiet and tried to only say things that wouldn't show people I was different. I avoided judgement but I was also missing joy! I kept people out and I tried to stay numb.
There weren't many tears then but I wasn't happy either. I was afraid mostly. Afraid of being seen and found wanting.
Since I broke out of that prison, I've cried a lot! I let the sad out, but mostly I cry happy tears! I get so overwhelmed with love and joy because I'm really living! Yes, there are risks and yes I get judged but I'd rather be living and get a few haters than live a bland, unfilling, unremarkable life! That's what I was doing.
If you knew you only had today, what would you do with it, what would you want to communicate, what legacy would you want to leave behind? What impact would you want to make on the world?
I want to encourage emotional and physical healing on a large scale. I want everyone that comes in contact with me to feel more empowered and free to be who they are. I want them to walk away seeing their worth more clearly!
So everyday that's my focus and living with that mission gives me chills! And when I see my life affecting others in that way I am brought to tears! Healing tears that come from my pain becoming my strength.💗
Live to the point of tears, my friends! Whether it's a lesson you learn or an adventure you have, the experiences you gain grow you and create a life that serves the world.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. ". Theodore Roosevelt
Creating Your Wardrobe 101!
Yesterday was awesome! I spent the majority of the day trying on everything in my closet and making decisions on how to trim down so I could easily find things I want to wear as well as part with things that weren't me that I hadn't touched in ages! My closet feels organized and my decisions today were a breeze!
I have received a ton of messages from you ladies asking about certain pieces I posted, where I shop, and how I decided what to keep. My weakness might be organization but, after 15 years as a buyer, creating a wardrobe is a strength!
I know there is a lot of talk about capsule wardrobes right now and I think they are great...for some people! I LOVE clothes and while my style is definitely casual I have a lot of boots and sweaters and jackets and things I truly love and a capsule wardrobe is just not going to work for me! However, I did break it down into categories and realized the reason I didn't wear certain pieces I love is because my wardrobe was missing some staple pieces. Over time, things get worn out or lost, or don't fit anymore and that can break down the usefulness of the things we have. We also have to realize when we are holding onto something emotionally that we will never wear again
So I am going live on Friday at 6pm EST to talk about creating a wardrobe. I'll touch on how to find your stores, how to get the best deals, how many items in each category is reasonable, what staples everyone should invest in. and discuss how to find your style if you feel lost!
Is your closet full but you feel like you never have anything to wear? Do you feel like you need things but when you go shopping you don't come back with items that expand your wardrobe? Do shopping trips make you feel worse about yourself so you avoid them? Or do you shop all the time and feel like you waste time and money and still aren't in love with your wardrobe?
Come join us Friday night in our Heart of a Warrior group as we continue to get organized with Creating Your Wardrobe 101! If you can't make it live, the call will be posted for you to catch up on later! Link below!
"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.