We were catching up on 'This Is Us' last night ( no spoilers, I promise! Phillip would kill me!) but one of the things that struck me about this particular episode was how all the characters were really depicted at my current age. The struggles of being late thirties. No matter what decisions we have made, it feels like so many doors have closed. The decisions we have made have formed a certain kind of life and we can start feeling trapped by our circumstances.
Marriage is hard, much harder than it seemed when we were free and twitterpated. We have made job choices around providing instead of pursuing our passions ( at times because we had to), our children have grown to a point that we aren't as needed anymore. We can start feeling irrelevant.
I had certainly started feeling that way. Before marriage and kids, I was FULL of life and ambition. I took risks, I was in love with my life, and meeting and marrying Phillip was part of that. We found each other in the middle of all that excitement and potential and I have no doubt that he is the one for me. We are of one mind, but even still, we had to start making decisions for our family. We decided together that I would stay home to be with our children, a decision I have no regrets about and yet it was gut wrenching leaving a job that I loved and a life I was proud of to start something new and unknown. I felt insecure about my abilities as a wife and a mother without the fulfillment of my career, I had too much of my self worth in my performance and that was revealed when I took away something that made me feel accomplished.
Our budget was tight and things had to be trimmed out, things we enjoyed, things that had brought us together in the first place. We had less time, less resources, and we started losing touch with all that excitement and potential. This is the beginning of a midlife crisis! This is the lie that our best days are behind us! That is not the problem. The problem is that we stopped dreaming.
I thank God for my husbands wisdom because he saw the answer first. He saw my need to have something of my own and my interest in serving others. He saw me telling people about the workout program that I was doing and saw how excited I was to help people get started and he told me I needed to coach. He made me do something for myself and that saved us. It was just one small decision. It didn't seem like a big deal but once I started feeling excited about my life again, lots of things started happening. We started dreaming. We started taking risks again. We got back to the root of who we are as individuals and as a couple.
A few months later, he decided he wanted to move to Colorado...in three weeks! He flew out for a week, found a place, and we MOVED. That is something we would have done long ago and we had the freedom to do it because we had both taken jobs that allowed us to work from home. There was nothing holding us back and it felt GOOD!
It doesn't matter if you are 20 or 100. If you are breathing, keep dreaming! Your age or circumstances aren't holding you back, they are simply different seasons of life, different hurdles to jump. In some ways you are MORE qualified to be successful in your later years because you have a mature frame of mind that you didn't have in your 20's, use it! Don't stand in front of the mirror mourning the loss of your youth, you are wasting time. In 20 years, you will be mourning the loss of THIS age! Instead, make the most of your life! Dream and then do the things that make you so excited you can't sleep!
Instead of letting your past haunt you, let your future potential haunt you! You are destined for greatness, that is why it's discouraging when you know you aren't reaching your full potential. It's not youth that makes us feel alive, it's pursuing the best version of ourselves, so get to it!
March 26th I am having a no obligation sneak peak into coaching. I'll be sharing my story and answering questions live and I would LOVE to spend some time with you and help you find out if this is a path for you! If you would love to build a life serving and encouraging people and having freedom to work from home ( or on the go) come join us! No pressure, just a fun chat to get you the answers you need as you dream! Message me or comment below and I will add you to the list! <3
"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.