Fear. It's what holds us back. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not having what it takes. Fear of pushing out side our comfort. But the truth is that our comfort zone really isn't that comfortable. We know we were meant for more! Being in the comfort zone means accepting mediocrity. It means feeling envious when others are succeeding as they dive head first into the unknown. It means not being in love with your life.
I WAS a fighter. I had lived wholeheartedly and then circumstances knocked me down. We all get knocked down from time to time and we all handle it in different ways. The negative emotions rise up and in our weakness we cling to them. Some justify their bad feelings and make themselves feel entitled to anger. Some rationalize how they have reacted in their weakness and hide from the truth, making excuses for themselves, others spread blame and refuse to take responsibility for their own happiness.
Or if you are like me, you might be hypersensitive about how people treat you. My entire self image was determined by what others thought of me. I had very little sense of personal value or self-worth apart from the opinions of others. When circumstances came that others were looking at me in a negative light ( for things I hadn't even done!), I felt shame, anger, and embarrassment. I started seeing myself as inferior, became depressed and started living in self-pity.
I won't lie, coming out of that place was hard. I was scared to try. I was scared to be vulnerable with people and live my life out loud, but through the process of pushing outside my comfort zone I learned that my goals and values had to be at the center of what I was doing. I couldn't be doing it to please others, not even a little!
When my goals were solid and defined, I started moving toward them without looking around to see who approved or disapproved and when I reached them, my own joy was enough! I didn't need to look around for others to be impressed by my accomplishment either.
It starts with the decision to be all in. In your mind, you have to shake off any excuses or negative thought patterns. You can't entertain words like, " I'll try" or " I doubt it will work" or ANY excuses you have about your own abilities! You have every bit of talent and ability you need to accomplish more than you could imagine! The trick is figuring out what you really want and then going for it! FOR YOU! It's not selfish to have goals and dreams. Knowing what those are puts you on the path to true joy and when you are on that path, you meet your tribe! You find all those other weirdos just like you and life becomes a grand adventure!
It's not comfortable to hate your body, to be depressed about your finances, to be exhausted physically and emotionally. It might feel safe to be unseen but it doesn't make for a fulfilling life!
Once I made it out of my comfort zone, I realized how very uncomfortable I truly was inside it! The only thing that was standing in my way was ME! This month in group we are focused on finding those areas that are holding us captive and pushing past them. it's not too late to join us! There is no better time to change than when you feel that small glimmer of hope! You know you were meant for more! Message me to jump in!
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"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.