Growing up, one of the things my family excelled in was communication. My mom did a great job of making us work out conflict and confide in one another. Those of us that were articulate helped those communicate that were not and those that were not learned to grow in that area. We learned to show up and deal with the mess instead of ignoring it.
While we may have rolled our eyes a few times, it's apparent now that the trust and loyalty that was built in those conversations has led to an unwavering commitment to be there for one another. We all know that one phone call is all it takes for support, help, and encouragement!
My mom saw the importance of health, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and she worked tirelessly to provide us with the skills to create that within our relationships.
Each new stage of my life has required me to come back to these principles and remember that in order for life to be joyful and fulfilling things to be right for everyone.
I lost sight of that as a wife and mother. I was making sure everyone had what I thought they needed at the expense of myself. When in reality what my family needed was a wife and mother that was healthy inside and out!
When I was depleted I was emotionally frustrated, quick to become angry, unhappy with my body, eating to be comforted, checking out mentally, too exhausted to participate the way I wanted to and I was judging myself harshly as well. I lived in shame all the time!
When I added myself back on to the priority list EVERYTHING began to change. It wasn't just a healthy body that I needed it was a healthy life! One with balance.
If we only focus on how we look and what we should or should not be eating, we are missing the bigger picture! We aren't tending to the reasons we run to food, alcohol, or even drugs.
YOU matter! You deserve to spend time doing things you enjoy, you need to invest in your growth as an individual, you need to invest in your marriage and relationships, you need to invest in a healthy body both in food choices and exercise, you need to see yourself as part of your family dynamic and not just the power source that keeps it moving!
If you are looking around your life and realizing your relationships aren't ministering to you , it's time to do a gut check!
Are YOU treating you well? Are you addressing your needs or are you expecting others to fill them? Are you growing as an individual? Are you communicating what's going on internally with others?
Even having a strong foundation in this area, I found myself struggling because I stopped seeing my worth and stopped caring for myself.
This is why in our challenge group we focus on personal development and set personal goals! Fitness has to be only one part of a healthy life. If it becomes the sole focus, it's one more more thing we are expecting perfection in, instead of being an act of self love! Instead of a freedom it becomes a prison.
We are about to start our November group where we will talk about being freedom focused and living in grace! If you can relate to my story or feel frustrated, angry, or sad on a regular basis, I invite you to join us!
This was one of the first things I did to invest in myself and it completely changed my self perspective! I love sharing it with others! 💗 Message me for more info or just to talk! I'd love to be a listening ear and share more of my story with you!
"And Aubrey was her name. A not so very ordinary girl or name."(Or so says David Gates ;) I'm a wife to Phillip, a mother to Scarlett and Juliet. We live in the beautiful city of Thornton, Co. I'm a recovering red bull addict. I love to read. I hate to cook. I seek to be inspired and also to inspire others. I am a Beachbody Coach on a quest to be truly healthy mind, soul, and body and challenge others to do the same.